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Dating – Do’s & Dont’s

DOs – Always look your best and be punctual. Showing up late or looking messy gives the impression that you don’t care — and, if that’s the case, why go out with this person in the first place?

Enjoy yourself on dates. Finding your soul mate is serious business, and it can sometimes even be a scary endeavor, but keep in mind that this is supposed to be fun.

Date people you’re attracted to, no matter what your friends say. Approval by your peers doesn’t prove a thing.

Stay positive, even when dates don’t end well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a prince. Along the way, you will probably meet some pretty nice people.

Plan ahead. Dating is a creative diversion that requires concentration and energy, so make arrangements ahead of time and let your date know you put some thought into the evening.

Be proactive about finding people to date. The man or woman you’ve been searching for your whole life is probably not going to come ring your doorbell and beg you to go to dinner anytime soon. Dating requires action, so get out there and meet as many people as you can.

Dont’s – Don’t call, text message or email someone you’ve just started seeing more than once a day unless they reply (or in the event of an emergency). Desperation and instability are major turnoffs.

Don’t lie to your date or about any aspect of your life, even if the truth isn’t as interesting or you’re worried they won’t like it. It would be awful to ruin a potentially life-changing relationship with your perfect match because of some silly lie you told early on to impress him or her.

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Single and Shy?

SINGLE AND SHY?

RELATIONSHIP/ DATING TIPS FOR SHY PEOPLE

Just the thought of dating or trying to date can be very stressful if you are shy.
Here are a few tips that can alleviate your fears and help you to navigate
what should be and CAN BE a rewarding part of your social life.
The choice is yours! Ready?

  1. As in any important area of your life, get extra help if you need it.  Take the time and effort necessary to finding people that may be right for you to date.
  2. Look for positive people.  You need to be open to the fact that you may need to meet many people before finding someone you can relate to.
  3. RELAX!  Join a club or organizations which include both genders- this should help you to become more comfortable with interacting with the opposite sex socially.
  4. Do not take rejection personally. Dating is kind of a numbers game- you will likely go through many opportunities before finding someone who might be right for you.
  5. Start out by small talk- just chatting about what you have in common.  Let the person know that you are interested in getting to know him/her better.
  6. Relax, think positive. Mentally prepare yourself for the date.  Have the first date be short- for instance- go for coffee or lunch.  Once actually on a date, ask questions, and show interest in the other person.
  7. Shy people are inward focused, so make your focus on your date rather than worrying about yourself.  If your date wants to talk about you, turn some of the questions back to your date.
  8. Build a connection with the other person.  Be confident. Smile when the person you are interested in looks at you, make eye contact, and for goodness’ sake, try to be yourself!
  9. Breathe….stay calm! Show some self confidence- it is an attractive attribute!

Dating/Relationship services such as Perfect Partners in PA/NJ can ease the process of dating as well as give members counseling and relationship advice.

Don’t let your shyness be an obstacle to your finding the person you can
spend your life with!

Until next time,

Chrissy

Perfect Partners is located in Bethlehem, PA and Sussex Co, NJ.
866-669-3283
Perfectpartnersnj.com
perfectpartnerslv@gmail.com

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Dating Safety Tips for Meeting Offline

Dating Safety Tips for Meeting Offline

It’s exciting to meet and date someone new! But things can go tragically wrong as seen in the current news story of the woman who met a man online and ended up missing in Aruba. You can read the story here.

As a single, there are safety precautions you should take. Here at Perfect Partners, we do a background check on each member to ensure safety. To further lessen anonymity, members are personally interviewed by the staff when they join. Everyone appreciates this security measure. But there are also precautions you should take.

Here is a timely reminder of a few good common sense tips for dating:

  1. Always meet in public, in a populated location. Until you know your date better, do not:
    • tell them where you live,
    • have them pick you up, or
    • invite them over for dinner.
  2. Stay away from remote or private locations. Stay in a public place the whole time.
  3. Tell a friend when and where you are going, and with whom.
  4. If you own a mobile phone, be sure you have it with you.
  5. Stay sober. Do not compromise your judgment. Do nothing that might cause you to make a poor decision.
  6. Drive yourself to and from the first meeting. Use your common sense — don’t put yourself in a situation where you must depend on someone you don’t know. Be in control of your own ride, even if that means being prepared to take a taxi.
  7. Keep an eye on your personal items; don’t leave your purse or wallet unattended.
  8. If you are drinking, keep your drink with you at all times so it can’t be tampered with.
  9. Don’t go back to your date’s home, or bring them to yours on the first date, no matter how well things go. If you are pressured, this is a good indication to end the date and leave.

Please stay safe!

Until next time,
Chrissy

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